The journey of self-discovery can be both profound and complex, especially when it involves recognizing oneself as neurodivergent without a formal diagnosis. For many adults, self-identifying (without a diagnosis) as neurodivergent is an empowering process, one that validates a lifetime of feeling "different" while offering a lens to better understand their thoughts, behaviours, and experiences. However, it can also bring unique challenges, benefits, and barriers that shape the journey of self-awareness and self-acceptance.
Challenges of Self-Identifying as Neurodivergent Without a Diagnosis
Lack of Validation from Others: Without a formal diagnosis, some individuals face scepticism or invalidation from others. Comments like “You’re just overthinking it” or “Everyone feels that way sometimes” can be dismissive and isolating. This lack of external validation can make it difficult to feel secure in one’s self-identification.
Difficulty Accessing Accommodations: Many workplaces, educational institutions, and public programs require official documentation to provide accommodations. This can leave self-identified neurodivergent individuals without the supports they need to thrive in these environments.
Self-Doubt and Impostor Syndrome: In the absence of a diagnosis, it’s common to question oneself. Thoughts like “What if I’m just imagining this?” or “Do I really belong in the neurodivergent community?” can create feelings of insecurity, despite clear personal evidence that aligns with neurodivergent experiences.
Benefits of Self-Identifying as Neurodivergent
Increased Self-Awareness: Self-identification often comes with the realization that traits or challenges previously perceived as flaws are actually part of one’s neurodivergent wiring. This reframing can foster greater self-compassion and a deeper understanding of personal needs.
Connection to a Community: Identifying as neurodivergent allows individuals to connect with others who share similar experiences. Communities, both online and offline, can be a source of support, education, and camaraderie, reducing feelings of isolation.
Freedom from Diagnostic Labels: For some, self-identification without a diagnosis allows them to embrace their identity without the constraints or stigmas that can sometimes accompany formal labels. It enables a more fluid exploration of what neurodivergence means to them personally.
Barriers to Receiving a Diagnosis
The road to an official diagnosis can be fraught with obstacles. Financial costs are often prohibitive, as private assessments by psychologists or psychiatrists can be expensive. Additionally, systemic issues such as long waiting lists, geographical inaccessibility to specialists, and limited resources for adult assessments can deter many from pursuing a diagnosis. Furthermore, cultural and societal stigma around neurodivergence may dissuade individuals from seeking formal recognition.
For those who identify as neurodivergent but remain undiagnosed, these barriers can reinforce feelings of exclusion. Yet, self-identification remains a valid and meaningful pathway for understanding one’s neurodivergence.
The Power of Support and Positive Perspectives
Self-identifying as neurodivergent can open doors to personal empowerment and growth, especially when supported by the right people and resources. Acknowledging one’s neurodivergence is the first step toward building a life that honours one’s strengths and needs.
Benefits of Support
Having a supportive network can make all the difference. Trusted friends, family members, and mentors can provide emotional validation, encouragement, and practical assistance. Peer groups—whether in-person or online—offer spaces to share experiences, strategies, and camaraderie.
Professional support is equally transformative. Neurodiversity-affirming therapists and coaches can provide tools for self-advocacy, emotional regulation, and navigating challenges. For those hesitant to seek a diagnosis, these professionals can still help by addressing specific needs without requiring formal documentation.
Kinds of Support Available
Peer Support Groups: Many communities have neurodivergent-led groups where individuals can share experiences, learn from others, and celebrate their unique traits. These groups are often inclusive of those without formal diagnoses.
Online Resources: The internet offers a wealth of blogs, forums, and social media spaces where neurodivergent individuals connect, learn, and find inspiration. Online platforms can also provide access to webinars, podcasts, and educational materials tailored to self-identifiers.
Creative Outlets and Mindfulness Practices: Engaging in creative or mindfulness-based activities can be grounding and empowering. Whether it’s journaling, art, music, or meditation, these outlets help individuals process emotions and express their unique perspectives.
Neurodiversity-affirming professionals: There are many professional counsellors and psychotherapists who are themselves neurodivergent, offering truly affirming support for those who self-identify. They might offer insight into personal experiences and mental health challenges, as well as provide capacity-building opportunities to support daily living and personal growth and development through a neurodivergent lens.
A Path Toward Flourishing
While self-identifying as neurodivergent without a diagnosis comes with its complexities, it is ultimately a deeply personal and validating process. Choosing to honour one’s neurodivergent identity fosters self-compassion, encourages growth, and paves the way for a more authentic life.
Remember, neurodivergence is a spectrum of diverse strengths and challenges. By focusing on your unique capabilities and seeking support when needed, you can embrace the full richness of your identity. Whether through community connection, professional guidance, or personal exploration, the journey is one of resilience, self-discovery, and empowerment.
As a neurodivergent-affirming practitioner, I encourage you to trust your instincts and honour your experiences. Your identity is valid, with or without a diagnosis. Celebrate your neurodivergence, and never hesitate to seek the support that helps you shine your brightest.